Lack of Confidence How to make self-Confidence important key to self confidence and preparation

Lack of confidence reflects the lack of belief in own,s own self. when we are not sure of what we say or do or not sure of our own abilities and potentialities, we tend to lost confidence.
A query like "will I be capable of doing it?", Am I going incorrect?", etc. torment our mind due to this lake of confidence.

Lack of confidence is often a result of an unappreciated past.

The hallmark of a successful leader in his trust in himself. Faith in own self, faith in one's abilities and capabilities and faith in god instills miraculous strength is used to carry to our conviction, acceptability, and popularity.

Confidence comes not from always being right. But from not fearing to be wrong.

we often tend to lose confidence if we fall in something. Most of us have a tendency to give up whenever we fail. Only a few have the inherent grit and determination to persevere and succeed.

Failure is the same for everyone, but the way we look at it differs Lack of confidence in our own self is actually a mindset. We do not realize our potentials and thus say "No, I cannot", "This is not possible"... And those few who finally emerge successful even after adversity are the ones who had confidence, determination and will power. They view failure from an entirely different perspective. They believe 'Failure is true, the stepping stone to success'

Instead of losing confidence, we should try to fight with renewed vigor infused with strength and belief in ourselves.

From failure...............

• We learn to access and evaluate our strengths and weaknesses. We can work on them to improve or shed them.
• We gain some experience which we could not get any other way.
• We become stronger and more determined.
• Our chances of succeeding increase. Now that we have already tasted the bitterness of failure we should work hard enough and put in our best efforts to teste the sweetness of success.

HOW TO OVERCOME LACK OF CONFIDENCE?

Follow the below mentioned simple steps to overcome the problem of lack of confidence.          

• Recognize your insecurities and fears.
• Disclose and discuss it with a friend and loved ones. They will always show you ways to fight it by assuring you their support.
• Remember that no one is perfect. To err is human, everybody makes mistake so don,t keep blaming yourself.
• Identify your successes. Don't let one failure overshadow all your sweet encounters with success. Take pride in those moments of success.
• Be thankful for what you have. Try to grateful for what you have, instead of crying over what you don't. Look around the world and you will find numerous people who have not been half as lucky as you are.
• Be positive and you will be infused with confidence.
• Accept compliment gracefully. When anybody compliments you, don,t shrug it off. Instead, respond positively and express heartfelt gratitude.
• Look in the mirror and smile. Every expression on your face can actually encourage your brain to register certain emotions. By looking in the mirror and smiling every day might feel happier with yourself and more confident in the long run. 
• Adhere to your principles. Do not compromise to them because ones you start doing that there is no end to it.
• Help others. Make in a habit. When you start helping people in need you enjoy a sense of fulfillment and contentment. It will thus enable you to realize that you have a tremendous capability of easing other people's lives and spreading happiness around.

The manner to expand self-self-assurance is to do the factor you worry.

HOW TO BUILD SELF CONFIDENCE?

• Dress up smartly.
• Walk with confidence.
• Maintain the right posture.
• Listen to motivational speakers.
• Compliment other people. Look for the best in others. By doing so, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.
• Sit in the front row. Avoid the back seat. people prefer the back seat only when they are afraid of being noticed.
• Speak up - don't hold back. We normally have the fear of being judged for saying something stupid. That is wrong. people, in general, are much more accepting then we imagine. 
• Work out regularly. Physical fitness contributes a lot in bringing out positivity in an individual.

PHYSICAL BARRIERS

Beside persona;l barriers in communication there may be physical barriers too.

PHYSICAL BARRIERS ARE:

• Stammering 
• Weak voice
• Mannerisms 
• Any physical debility that could affect voice and expression conscious effort and determination help in overcoming such limitations. These should either be taken care of or compensated by other taits which hide these limitations. Study of great lives reveals that all great leaders have been very good speakers. They may not have been born orators, but acquired the art in the process of becoming leaders.

Effective communication is not an inborn trait, it can be learned and mastered. A great orator of ancient Greece named Demosthenes was initially one of the worst stammerers of Athens. In order to overcome the problem, we would go to the beach every day, put a few pebbles in this month, and address the ways. His tireless efforts and rigorous practice made him a legendary orator!

LISTENING

The art of listening is a critical skill for good communication.

ONE MUST LISTEN FIRST..........

TO ANSWER CORRECTLY.

Poor listening can be a serious problem with the correct answer.

To improve listening skills one must :

• Improve the power of concentration to listen attentively.
• Ask the question in case you need clarification. It shows interest.
• Don't interrupt. Avoid distractions.
• Be open-minded. Keep your mind free from any emotional bias or perception. Don't let preconceived ideas and prejudice obstruct your listening.
• Avoid judging or rushing to a conclusion or an answer, listen to the whole massage or question or speech, whatsoever.
• Concentrate on the massage, not on the delivery.
• Recognize non-verbal communication such as facial expressions, eye contact, etc. They might communicate a different message from the verbal one.